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God! (contd.)


Hello.. Last blog I left at External Parent.

I came across this book “I’m OK, You’re OK” by Thomas A. Harris. It had in it
the concept of PAC (Parent- Adult- Child).. It’s a simplified version of
Superego-Ego-Id model of Transactional Analysis, proposed by Freud, made
especially for layman.

I’ll summarize it as:

Parent: it’s the part of a person that has been “taught”.. It mostly consists
of tradition, teachings, prejudices, etc.. Imagine it as a part of your
personality that stores information about what elders teach you.

Child: it’s the part that the child “feels”.. It mostly consists of all the
emotions like, anger, happiness, depression, guilt, creativity, etc..

Adult: it’s the part that analyses the data from Parent and Child and after
testing/processing the data it accepts or denies the data..

For example, you are taught that you shouldn’t touch boiling water.. This
data is stored in your Parent.. When you grow, your Adult develops. You touch a
bowl of boiling water and u feel pain.. Immediately the Adult accepts the Parent
data..

Similarly data from Child is accepted or rejected.. A child who has been
loved very much, will have a lot of data on feelings of love, and a child
DEPRIVED of love, won’t have that much data related to love, and would grow up
as a hard hearted person.

Thus, a healthy P-A-C keeps life running smoothly.. For more details, check
the books, I’m OK, You’re OK, Staying OK, Games People Play.

Now what’s an External Parent..?

The Parent (esp. the data accepted by the adult) always tell us throughout
our lives what we should do and what we shouldn’t. Like, we shouldn’t lie, we
should be humble, we should be truthful, we should respect elders, we shouldn’t
steal, etc. etc.

So, ultimately, we depend on he Parent to tell us what’s right and wrong..
Whenever you plan to do something wrong, the Child in you feels the same “guilt”
or “anxiety” that you had felt when you were young and you did something wrong
and your parents scolded you or punished you..

When things go wrong or right, you blame or congratulate the Parent in you
and the people responsible for shaping your Parent, like actual parents,
guardians, elder brother sisters, uncle aunts, teachers..

There’s a peculiar human tendency of externalizing their Parent.. As in,
humans sometimes make some other person responsible for their actions.. For
instance, you tell your friend to scold you if you don’t study properly.. After
you have externalized your Parent onto that friend of yours, your Child goes
crazy.. Because the Child can sometimes be crazy and is always kept under strict
check by the Parent or Adult.. Externalizing the Parent is an indication of a
weak Adult.. And now that you’ve successfully externalized your Parent too, the
Child feels free to do ANYTHING it wants.. If things go wrong, blame it on the
external Parent..

So, in the above example, after telling your friend to scold you if you don’t
study, you go on to play and have the time of your life, and you fail in your
exams, and then you come back to your friend and scold him/her that he/she
didn’t scold you enough, etc.. And I am sure you could relate to such other
examples, either being the one who externalized your Parent or had been the
Parent for someone else..

In the present society, God is this External Parent.. Externalizing your
parent, makes you feel LESS RESPONSIBLE for the issue at hand.. Like you say,
God is responsible for making this universe and stuff, He knows the future,
He’ll take care of everything, and YOU activate your Child in full mode and
“feel” that you’re not responsible for all the destruction that you’re doing..

This is what Man is doing nowadays.. Externalizing his Parent onto God, he
“feels” he’s not responsible for all the chaos and destruction that he’s causing
to Earth. He thinks he is not responsible for all the cruelty, all the killing,
massacre that he’s doing.. After doing bad things, Man looks at his External
Parent, “God”, to see if He punishes him.. But your external Parent can’t punish
you enough, can he.. Some who get punished enough, become reformed, while most
others continue their bully.

I don’t know if God exists or not.. Maybe he does.. But even if he does, I
don’t think even he’d want to be an External Parent for all of mankind….. and the most give-away proverb that supports this assumption is, “God helps them who help themselves”.

So, I think it’s time we started helping ourselves, rather than waiting for God to do miracles…..

God!


Let’s talk about God and Religion today…

What or Who’s God?

Let’s go back in time..

Early man: no science.. None whatsoever.. No fancy car, no dishwasher, no
electronics, not even table-chair! He’s hunting, and surviving..

Imagine yourself as the dumbest person on this planet.. You see the morning
sky and see the sun, what do u think? Wow! I can’t see that.. That’s one hell of
a bright light.. You look at it in awe as it sets and rises! It’s warmth
energizes you after cold night..

You see rain.. Thunder clouds.. How do u feel? U feel scared.. If you are
having a hard time imagining, think of your childhood.. Weren’t you afraid of
thunder and lightening?

Of course! It’s suppose to scare you.. It’s how evolution of brain has
happened! Being scared of loud noise! It gives u an impulse to protect
yourself.. Go inside a cave or something..

But then you ask yourself, who was “shouting”?? Was he angry or something??
Exactly what this early man used to think.. And they name him GOD!!

Early man couldn’t understand all the mysteries of the universe.. Why that
“bright light” kept coming up and going down, why the burning heat during
summers, why the freezing cold during winters, why the fierce rain during
monsoons, etc..

WHO was controlling these things after all!!! (Oh and that WHO isn’t World
Health Organization)

So, they ASSUMED, that there was this superpower, a master, the controller
who had created them..

C’mon!! They didn’t have geography lessons to tell ’em that the earth is
round and it’s the 3rd planet from the Sun, the so called “bright-light”! Nobody
told them about solar systems, air compositions, biology, chemistry,
electricity! Poor guys!

What do u do when you see a nice and interesting thing you donno about? You
make up a story! You make assumptions! You make discoveries and you invent your
discoveries!

So God was created!

What does this guy look like? Ooh he’s definitely a man!! Look at him roar
(thunderstorms) when he’s angry!! What language does he speak?? “God knows”!

So now we have a God, who looks like a human, and supposedly a male, and he
commands all of Nature (the wind, water, earth, sun, etc.)

One MAN!! GOD!! MALE!! THAT’S IT!!

NAH!!! Not liking.. Let’s add a female.. That poor guy can’t do everything on
his own!! This GUY should have a wife, some sons and daughters, a ministry, blah
blah!

What’s this!! EVOLUTION!!

A man’s opinion is a product of his surrounding.. So I don’t doubt that while
cave men thought their Gods lived in caves, kings and emperors thought their
Gods lived in palaces!

So as society developed, religious men also thought that even god has some
society or ministry kinda thing.. Lets make one take care of wind, one for
water, one for earth, one for food, one for this and one for that! WOW!! SO MANY
GODS!!

So as man evolved, concept of God evolved.. Until recently.. I’ll come to
that soon..

Let’s talk about RELIGION!

Early man: hunters. Killing, and feeding! How disgusting, you’d say! No
manners!! Sorry to say, but they didn’t have moral science class those days..

But then came this “thinker” who thought, that we are under the command of
god! So this “thinker” guy is now our moral science teacher for all around
him/her. And I assume this moral science teacher is old.. Else he wouldn’t have
many listeners, now would he!! Who listens to a stupid young fellow!! c’mon!
he’s soooo young!! Yeah you get it.. This guy’s old.. And maybe, just maybe, he
has some nice hallucinations, because of scientific causes we know affecting
old! But who’s gonna tell the other people that this guy needs a hospital and
not an audience!!

But anyways amidst his hallucinations, he tells wonderful stories.. He
teaches the young people the meaning of life! He tells about God.. Everything
that he thinks is positive

These stories are carried forward.. And as they are carried forward, they are
modified.. And you have no idea to what wonderful spicy substances are added to
it!! I call it the best cooked recipe!

So we now have a story, and a moral science book for those hooligans who are
not moral..

This is actually how empires spread.. This concept of religion was a
brilliant idea to make uncivilized humans, civilized!! It was ingenuity of the
human brain to devise such a fabulous masterpiece to make humans what they were
to human what they became.

But THEN things changed!

WHY?

‘Cause there wasn’t only one psychotic “thinker”!! There were more!! All over
the surface of Earth!! And as explained in my last blog, communities met, there
was a collision of beliefs! And this resulted in wars, superior-inferior
duality, etc.!

So, now not only were humans fighting, but even Gods were! Say for example,
let’s have a death match between Allah and Ram! Yeah right! Hilarious! Next
round with Jesus perhaps..!

God and Religion in Present society..

After discovery of science, all those unsolvable mysteries (like, what if we
fall from the edge of the earth?) were solved! Humans realized it wasn’t God who
was controlling things at His bidding.. There were scientific proper reasons to
things that happened around us.. Why rain fell, why sun is so bright a light,
etc. etc…

BUT.. GOD remained.. WHY? Because the stories are wonderful and grannies love
telling nice stories to startle the young newborn’s mind!! And religious stories
somehow make the best bedtime stories! And why not.. Even in school perhaps!!
After all it was “THE INGENIOUS IDEA” that made uncivilized, civilized.. Now who
wants their children to be uncivilized!! Not me! So tell the best story ever
made!! God and Religion!

What’s God’s purpose now?

Apart from mental solace, God has now become, what I call, the
“external-Parent”.

What’s that???? 😮

Read on.. Next blog soon..;)

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